Unfortunately hospital stays are a normal thing for us and no matter how serious or mild the condition is it isn’t easy. So many emotions along with sleep deprivation, not eating or drinking properly, juggling work, other children at home and the worst for me is the unknown. Whats wrong? How serious? When will I be able to bring my baby home? I’ve had some of my lowest moments during hospital stays. I’ve snapped at people that didn’t deserve it, I’ve ugly cried over the smallest things and I’ve been “that parent” to way too many medical professionals -if you’re reading this I’m sorry.
My biggest piece of advice is don’t be too hard on yourself and let people help you. I am notorious for saying, “no I’m ok, thank you” when in reality I’m dehydrated, haven’t eaten or slept in 30 hours and I desperately need a shower. When people offer take them up on it. It doesn’t help that our kiddos get sick at the least convenient times. It usually happens after a 12 hour work day at 1am the night before a big holiday or vacation. Between Brady’s NICU and PICU stays, seizures, pneumonia, surgeries and a 10 day mystery illness a week after the birth of my youngest son I have a bit of experience. So, I’ve come up with a list of must haves.
- Support- This one is huge! Family, friends, co-workers, etc. Anyone you can talk to and can give you a much needed break.
- Resilience- There’s a lot of ups and downs. Celebrate the ups and recover quickly from the downs. Our kids admire us so much and feed off our energy. Stay strong!
- Sleep- If you can’t go home to sleep, ask for a place at the hospital. I’ve slept in empty rooms, on pull out couches and in bed with Brady. Which is kind of a win/win cause who doesn’t like snuggles when they feel lousy.
- Fresh air- Go outside, take a walk and some deep breaths. It’s amazing what a little breather will do for you. I find that I can see things through a new set of eyes after just 20 minutes.
- Take care of yourself- If your tank is empty everyone suffers. Keep snacks and drinks with you, take your vitamins, shower and get yourself in a healthy mindset. Some of us pray, meditate, workout, listen to music or all of the above. You know you best, don’t ever feel guilty for taking care of yourself.
What would you add to this list? Please share with me what helps you.. Maybe you don’t have the same situation with your children but what about a sick parent or spouse. Comment below or email me at beautifullyunexpected.hope@gmail.com.
Here’s some pictures of some of our stays..
